I know I have a lot of opinions on this issue and could be seen as somewhat of a hypocrite now that I’ve put this out for the public to read.
But, you know those times when you’re in a relationship that you know isn’t good, that you know isn’t right for you…but you make it seem better than what it really is, you put up a sort of façade. It’s like your SO attached that you can’t just leave, even if you know it’s not good for you. And then, one day you’re out and about and you meet this really great person and are just in awe about how great they are and how great of a boyfriend/girlfriend they’d make…but then you quickly remember how you shouldn’t even be thinking about that because you are in a relationship. But as you get to know that new person more and more, you quickly start realizing how perfect they could be…how being in that relationship makes a whole lot more sense than the one you’re currently in. That that new person is someone you’ve been looking for since you got into that first relationship…they’re everything you wanted…like if you had a checklist of what you look for in a potential boyfriend/girlfriend, you’d have no empty boxes.
So what do you do? It’s like the line from He’s Just Not That Into You: “What if you meet the love of your life…are you suppose to let them pass you by?”
When you know it could be better, that it would be better…do you just get up and leave? Should you feel bad about it, even if you know that your current relationship isn’t going to go anywhere? Even if it’s so bad that that current boyfriend/girlfriend knows it’s not going to get better than it already is, and y’all both know that it’s not going to be your “forever” relationship…that there’s no chance in hell it’ll make it to the marriage stage…because y’all both know that as much as it hurts to say that y’all aren’t “The One” for each other…you’re not his and he’s not yours.
Well, that’s what’s making this decision so difficult. I’ve always considered myself a very loyal person…I mean even in the smallest things: I always eat at the same places and order the same things, it’s so bad that even the people that work there know what to make as soon as I walk in. It’s weird.
Never in a million years did I think I’d ever have to think about this, but well, here goes:
I think I’m about to cheat on UT.
I think I’m going to move on and do what I really want to do and have wanted to do since I started thinking about “what I want to be when I grow up.” For those of you that don’t know, which is probably be most of you, I am in the process of getting into an art school to get a BFA in Graphic Design.
Definitely not where you were thinking this story was going, huh?
Monday, November 16, 2009
Thursday, September 10, 2009
nineteenth [[jim boran.]]
Okay, so I need other people's opinions...I just want to know if you agree, or if I'm thinking a bit on the shallow side. Here goes:
So in a "hypothetical" situation ;) [[bahahaha...that was just for you, Rachel]]...
Could you ever date anyone with the same name as an ex...I mean, not just like the same first name, but like the same [[well, hispanic-ized version]] last name as well, and not just any ex, but the most recent? [[an vs. eno]]
Am I the only one that thinks that weird?
I mean, first off, if you are...shouldn't JimTwo at least blow JimOne out of the water? Like to nearly erase the JimOne? Shouldn't JimTwo have to be that much better than JimOne for you to even take it into consideration?
This guy was negative points before he even had a chance to negate those points on his own. Sorry, buddy.
Thing is, JimOne set the bar pretty high...and well JimTwo is pretty damn short.
But the one thing I do know that is shallow, is that with this JimTwo character, most of my shoes couldn't be worn and would go to waste? I know I'm not the only girl who'd rather not date someone shorter than them.
But that's beside the point. Well, not completely beside the point because that did make those points lessen more than what they already did when I learned what his name was. Eek. Knee-deep negative. Ouch.
But for real, what would you do?
How do you let someone down easily? Especially if they haven't flat out said they were interested? HELP! lol
I can't just plain out [[unless he finally says something]] be like: "Dude, this is never gonna happen; You have the same name as my last boyfriend."
I mean, the same name and shortness aren't the only things that are influencing this matter, but it's just flat out not going to happen with this guy. I can't see myself with him in the long-run. I'm not gonna waste my time and his. And he has many awkward moments. I mean, I like to make things awkward and kill moments....but this would be beyond that sometimes.
Would it be completely bitchy of me, if he finally says something to me, to say that it's never going to happen, mostly because of the name? or something along those lines?
I mean, I do work with this guy, so I definitely wouldn't want to date him for that reason as well. But, oddly enough, well, not so oddly, because wonderful timing always seems to find me [[and by wonderful, i mean the opposite]]...I was flipping through a Women's Health magazine this morning and tell me why there was a part in the "ASK THE GUY NEXT DOOR" section: "How do I send the 'friends only' message to a coworker who is really into me? I don't want to hurt his feelings."
Funny how it seemed to hit the nail on the head, huh?
This Matt Bean's [[the "guy next door"]] answer to this question gave a couple of suggestions. But he did end saying that you could use the "I don't date coworkers" excuse...though, that could backfire...and leave the guy holding out hope, even if you know there's not a chance in hell.
Hmmm...
Anyway, so what's your take?
So in a "hypothetical" situation ;) [[bahahaha...that was just for you, Rachel]]...
Could you ever date anyone with the same name as an ex...I mean, not just like the same first name, but like the same [[well, hispanic-ized version]] last name as well, and not just any ex, but the most recent? [[an vs. eno]]
Am I the only one that thinks that weird?
I mean, first off, if you are...shouldn't JimTwo at least blow JimOne out of the water? Like to nearly erase the JimOne? Shouldn't JimTwo have to be that much better than JimOne for you to even take it into consideration?
This guy was negative points before he even had a chance to negate those points on his own. Sorry, buddy.
Thing is, JimOne set the bar pretty high...and well JimTwo is pretty damn short.
But the one thing I do know that is shallow, is that with this JimTwo character, most of my shoes couldn't be worn and would go to waste? I know I'm not the only girl who'd rather not date someone shorter than them.
But that's beside the point. Well, not completely beside the point because that did make those points lessen more than what they already did when I learned what his name was. Eek. Knee-deep negative. Ouch.
But for real, what would you do?
How do you let someone down easily? Especially if they haven't flat out said they were interested? HELP! lol
I can't just plain out [[unless he finally says something]] be like: "Dude, this is never gonna happen; You have the same name as my last boyfriend."
I mean, the same name and shortness aren't the only things that are influencing this matter, but it's just flat out not going to happen with this guy. I can't see myself with him in the long-run. I'm not gonna waste my time and his. And he has many awkward moments. I mean, I like to make things awkward and kill moments....but this would be beyond that sometimes.
Would it be completely bitchy of me, if he finally says something to me, to say that it's never going to happen, mostly because of the name? or something along those lines?
I mean, I do work with this guy, so I definitely wouldn't want to date him for that reason as well. But, oddly enough, well, not so oddly, because wonderful timing always seems to find me [[and by wonderful, i mean the opposite]]...I was flipping through a Women's Health magazine this morning and tell me why there was a part in the "ASK THE GUY NEXT DOOR" section: "How do I send the 'friends only' message to a coworker who is really into me? I don't want to hurt his feelings."
Funny how it seemed to hit the nail on the head, huh?
This Matt Bean's [[the "guy next door"]] answer to this question gave a couple of suggestions. But he did end saying that you could use the "I don't date coworkers" excuse...though, that could backfire...and leave the guy holding out hope, even if you know there's not a chance in hell.
Hmmm...
Anyway, so what's your take?
eighteenth [[if you have something good going for you, why ruin it?]]
so i was listening to the countdown the other day, and i thought this song was so dead on. thank you kellie pickler!..and taylor swift...at it again :)
the videos actually pretty funny too [[it's under the lyrics!]]
they say it, well...sing it, so well -->
Best Days Of Your Life
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met 'till you were making me cry
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
Ain't it a shame?
A shame that everytime you hear my name
Brought up in a casual conversation
You can't think straight
And ain't it sad?
You can forget about what we had
Take a look at her and do you like what you see?
Or do you wish it was me
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met to the very last night
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
And does she know?
Know about the times you used to hold me
Wrapped me in your arms and how you told me
I'm the only one
I heard about
Yeah, someone told me once, when you were out
She went a little crazy ran her mouth about me
Ain't jealousy funny?
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met to the very last night
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
...with me was a fairytale love
I was head-over-heals 'till you threw away us
And it's just too bad you've, already had the best days
The best days of your life
I heard you're gonna get married
Have a nice little family
Live out my dreams with someone new
But, I've been told that a cheater
Is always a cheater
I've got my pride, and she's got you...
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met 'till you were making me cry
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life...
Of your life
Oh, oh, yeah
You're gonna think of me
You're gonna think of me in your life
Oh, oh, yeah
It's a shame, it's a shame...
YouTube: Best Days of Your Life video
the videos actually pretty funny too [[it's under the lyrics!]]
they say it, well...sing it, so well -->
Best Days Of Your Life
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met 'till you were making me cry
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
Ain't it a shame?
A shame that everytime you hear my name
Brought up in a casual conversation
You can't think straight
And ain't it sad?
You can forget about what we had
Take a look at her and do you like what you see?
Or do you wish it was me
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met to the very last night
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
And does she know?
Know about the times you used to hold me
Wrapped me in your arms and how you told me
I'm the only one
I heard about
Yeah, someone told me once, when you were out
She went a little crazy ran her mouth about me
Ain't jealousy funny?
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met to the very last night
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life
...with me was a fairytale love
I was head-over-heals 'till you threw away us
And it's just too bad you've, already had the best days
The best days of your life
I heard you're gonna get married
Have a nice little family
Live out my dreams with someone new
But, I've been told that a cheater
Is always a cheater
I've got my pride, and she's got you...
'Cause I'll be there, in the back of your mind
From the day we met 'till you were making me cry
And it's just too bad, you've already had the best days
The best days of your life...
Of your life
Oh, oh, yeah
You're gonna think of me
You're gonna think of me in your life
Oh, oh, yeah
It's a shame, it's a shame...
YouTube: Best Days of Your Life video
seventeenth [[ Behind those eyes you hide.]]
So, I was doing yet another stupid myspace survey thing, and well...I always answer them with too much information, or very confusing information...that is unless you know what the heck the references mean that I make...a lot. Anyway, the question "Do you hate the last person you kissed?" came up...and of course, I couldn't just answer it with a hell yes or a no way like everyone else probably could/would. So, pretty much this is the first time I'll blog about this person [[well, second, but the first just references, 'tis all]]...which is actually probably a record for me. But, I think that he also played a part in that, given he wasn't another asshole. Those others just brought those certain "blogged" things onto themselves...well, mostly just one person. bahaha. So yeah--this is weird. But actually not the first time I've thought about this...it's more like the first time I've thought about this version of what was said in 10 Things I Hate About You. It's so common to see people use the poem that Julia Stiles' character, Kat Stratford, wrote about Heath Ledger's character, Patrick Verona, in that dang movie!...So I wanted to change it up...I mean, c'mon, everyone's life can't be exactly like that one, exactly the same...BORING! Anyway...writing this made me laugh...and think about things...but most importantly, it got me to write again...finally. It's been a while; it was time for another bit. So here goes [[and p.s. pardon my not flowy-ness on a few of the lines...just pretend it works...for my sake..and yours. haha]]:
DO YOU HATE THE LAST PERSON THAT YOU KISSED?
I hate the way he talks to me,
and the way he does his hair.
I hate the way he drives his car,
I hate it when he stares.
I hate that he only wears flip flops or vans
and sometimes the Toms that cost way more than a dime.
I hate him so much it makes me sick,
it even makes me rhyme.
I hate the way he's always right or just seems to make SO much sense,
I hate it when he lies.
I hate it when he makes me laugh,
even worse when he makes me cry.
I hate it that he made snot sculptures…
during a "serious" time,
I hate it that that artsy stuff is what makes him him,
but why else would I have like this guy named---whoa.
I hate the way we talked for over three hours,
The first time we hung out.
I hate the way I didn’t finish my steak and shake,
but I was just so taken with him.
I hate that it started with that place,
And “ended” with it too.
I hate it that he's not around,
and the fact that he doesn't call.
But mostly I hate the way I don't hate him,
not even close
not even a little bit
not even at all.
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DO YOU HATE THE LAST PERSON THAT YOU KISSED?
I hate the way he talks to me,
and the way he does his hair.
I hate the way he drives his car,
I hate it when he stares.
I hate that he only wears flip flops or vans
and sometimes the Toms that cost way more than a dime.
I hate him so much it makes me sick,
it even makes me rhyme.
I hate the way he's always right or just seems to make SO much sense,
I hate it when he lies.
I hate it when he makes me laugh,
even worse when he makes me cry.
I hate it that he made snot sculptures…
during a "serious" time,
I hate it that that artsy stuff is what makes him him,
but why else would I have like this guy named---whoa.
I hate the way we talked for over three hours,
The first time we hung out.
I hate the way I didn’t finish my steak and shake,
but I was just so taken with him.
I hate that it started with that place,
And “ended” with it too.
I hate it that he's not around,
and the fact that he doesn't call.
But mostly I hate the way I don't hate him,
not even close
not even a little bit
not even at all.
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Wednesday, September 2, 2009
sixteenth [[virgin lips]]
why...
...do i always manage to find the "perfect" songs or stories for certain situations?
its like im a magnet. i just can't seem to be a magnet for the right guy right now. a magnet for assholes, and boys that also like boys, and terrible timing...but apparently not for the right person...yet. how wonderful. this article made me laugh though, but not necessarily because it was funny...it just made me not feel so completely OUTRAGEOUS. it made me feel a little better about myself and my...hmm...Morals. lol
read the BLOG, wait...I guess you already are. im going on a not-being-too-mean spree. well, when it comes to blog-writing, apparently. its weird. but, i guess you could take it upon yourself to REALLY piss me off, so that I could have more material :) hahaha JK.
maybe ill give up writing "mean" blogs for lent. hmmm...wouldnt that be something? hahaha pah. yeah. like i could go 40-ish days without writing something the least bit angry-sounding.
maybe i will.
anyway...i'll stop with the pre-bloggageness now! lol
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So, I was looking around at random stuff as usual and came across this. I'm glad I'm not the only one that has thought like this woman...maybe my actions [[or lack there of]] aren't quite to her extent...but they're not far from it. And, I totally understand her reasoning...but I do have some expceptions. *cough
You should read this though...interesting...and you probably won't agree...but whatev. Let me know what you think:
http://www.dailynebraskan.com/opinion/trueblood_first_kiss_worth_waiting_for_perfect_person-1.1483060
TRUEBLOOD: First kiss worth waiting for perfect person
Bethany Trueblood
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Published: Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Updated: Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m 20 years old, and I still possess virgin lips.
This shocked one of my friends, who then asked why I have never been kissed.
I explained that the opportunity has never presented itself. I told him that I’m not one to randomly “hook-up” with anyone, nor have I been in a dating relationship. It was my dateless life that shocked him even more.
The lack of kisses and dates, I told him, goes hand-in-hand with my perpetual search to find the “right one,” so he who could be smooched has to first pass that test.
As I observe the number of physically intimate lives around me, I begin to wonder why I care so much about saving my untouched lips for “the one,” especially when it seems unlikely that a guy is saving his lips for me.
A quote by Drew Barrymore’s character Josie Geller in “Never Been Kissed,” one of my favorite movies, helps depict my reasoning:
“The right guy, he’s out there. I’m just not gonna go kiss a whole bunch of losers to get to him.”
It’s not kissing guys that Josie is concerned with; it’s kissing the right guy that she cares about.
Something I’ve been thinking about lately is what is meant by a kiss. Why do we choose to pucker up or not? I thought it would be interesting to get some input on the matter, so I conducted a couple surveys: one for people who have been kissed and one for those who have not. About 70 people took the first survey and 14 the latter. Across the board, many seem to associate kissing with romantic feelings and displaying affection for someone. Aside from that, though, the meaning of a kiss varies from person to person.
According to some of the responses, a kiss can be a greeting among friends, a tender farewell, or a way of “sealing a moment” in one’s memory. To others it could be the result of a mutually exclusive attraction between two people, an emotional union or a sign of devotion. A kiss might also be a romantic gesture meant to progress a relationship beyond friendship. In addition to these things, a number of people say kissing is simply fun.
For those experienced in lip-locking, the number of one’s past kissing partners generally exceeded more than five people, and the need to be in a relationship to exchange kisses was only somewhat important. Many of these people started kissing in their early teen years and say that they do not have any regrets about their first kiss; some, however, do wish that their first kiss was with their current dating partner. For those who have never been kissed, being in a relationship first is very important. Also, the strong consensus for the few who have never kissed is that a kiss should only be shared between two people who are in a committed relationship with one another.
I can strongly identify with the latter group of people and their thoughts about kissing. A kiss is something very intimate and special that should not be given lightly. I would concur that a kiss is an expression of one’s complete devotion and love for another person: something to be exchanged when two people know that they are truly in love.
Every guy I meet could potentially be my husband, but if he’s not mine, then he’s going to be somebody else’s. I want to be extra careful about who I share my affections with out of respect for the guy and for his future wife; I want my future husband to do the same for me. I don’t like the thought of my spouse-to-be exchanging saliva with other girls; when I kiss him someday, I want to know that I’m kissing him only, and not lips that may have traces of others’ DNA on them.
Although kissing may be a lot of fun, I wonder, what’s the point in kissing someone if you’re not in a committed relationship? It might be good “practice,” but I would rather enjoy the awkwardness of a first kiss with the man I want to be with for the rest of my life than become a pro at kissing guys who will one day belong to other women. I am okay with waiting to kiss a guy until I know that he is “the right one;” as Josie puts it, “the only person that you’re supposed to kiss for the rest of your life.”
As my survey results show, a kiss is what a person makes it out to be. It’s completely up to you to decide how and with whom you choose to display your affection. As for my “virgin lips,” they are going to keep waiting, no matter how long that might be.
Bethany Trueblood is a sophomore news editorial major. Reach her at bethanytrueblood@dailynebraskan.com.
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bahahahahaha
so this guy was one of the many responses to her article...it made me crack up hardcore...even if he was kind of a jerk to her...its still funny:
JUSTIN Wed Feb 18 2009 16:00
Look, I know it isn’t cool for a 21 year old guy like me to admit it, but I am proud of my status: I am a senior in college, and I’m still a hand virgin.
New friends are often surprised when they find out about this aspect of my life. They badger me about my life, and my goals, and what led to this point, as if it was just that easy. I tell them the same thing every time: it isn’t that I’m opposed to holding hands. It is just that the right girl has never entered my life. I’m just not the type of guy to go around clasping palms all willy-nilly, nor have I ever been in a tactile relationship.
The lack of finger-snuggling, you see, is part of my long-term goal to find The One. I long ago decided that I had to be sure that I wasn’t giving up my hand to just anyone. I never actually got around to determining criteria on who is The One but I’m working on the assumption here that angels with trumpets will give me the heads up when she wanders by.
I’m been pondering lately what exactly what it means to hold someone’s hand. Is it nature or nurture? Is it a result of what is in our society or what is in our genes? Or perhaps what is in our jeans? I decided to take a couple of surveys. Of the 50 people I surveyed, 37 of them had held hands before, while 13 had not.
According to some of the responses, hand-holding can be a greeting among friends, a tender farewell, or a way of “sealing a deal” that doesn’t involve paperwork. To others it could be the result of a mutually exclusive attraction between two people, an emotional union or a sign of devotion. Holding hands might also be a romantic gesture meant to progress a relationship beyond friendship. In addition to these things, a number of people say hand-holding is simply fun.
For those experienced in palm-grasping, the number of one’s past hand partners generally exceeded more than five people, and the need to be in a relationship to grab fingers was only somewhat important. Many of these people started holding in their early teen years and say that they do not have any regrets about their first hand; some, however, do wish that their first hand had been their current dating partner’s. For those who have never been held a hand, being in a relationship first is very important. Also, the strong consensus for the few who have never held a hand is that a holding should only be shared between two people who are in a committed relationship with one another.
I can strongly identify with the latter group of people and their thoughts about hand-holding. A hand is something very intimate and special that should not be touched lightly. I would concur that a grasp is an expression of one’s complete devotion and love for another person: something to be exchanged when two people know that they are truly in love.
Every girl I meet could potentially be my wife, but if she’s not mine, then she’s going to be somebody else’s. I want to be extra careful about whom I share my affections with out of respect for the girl and for her future husband; I want my future wife to do the same for me. I don’t like the thought of my spouse-to-be exchanging palm sweat with other guys; when I clutch her hand tight someday, I want to know that I’m touching her only, and not hands that may have traces of others’ DNA on them.
Although holding hands may be a lot of fun, I wonder, what’s the point in holding someone’s hand if you’re not in a committed relationship? It might be good “practice,” but I would rather enjoy the awkwardness of a first hand-hold with the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life than become a pro at holding the hands of girls who will one day belong to other men. I am okay with waiting to hold a girl’s hand until I know that she is “the right one;” as H. Jackson Brown, Jr. puts it, “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.”
As my survey results show, a hand is what a person makes it out to be. It’s completely up to you to decide how and with whom you choose to display your affection. As for my “virgin hands,” they are going to keep waiting, no matter how long that might be.
...do i always manage to find the "perfect" songs or stories for certain situations?
its like im a magnet. i just can't seem to be a magnet for the right guy right now. a magnet for assholes, and boys that also like boys, and terrible timing...but apparently not for the right person...yet. how wonderful. this article made me laugh though, but not necessarily because it was funny...it just made me not feel so completely OUTRAGEOUS. it made me feel a little better about myself and my...hmm...Morals. lol
read the BLOG, wait...I guess you already are. im going on a not-being-too-mean spree. well, when it comes to blog-writing, apparently. its weird. but, i guess you could take it upon yourself to REALLY piss me off, so that I could have more material :) hahaha JK.
maybe ill give up writing "mean" blogs for lent. hmmm...wouldnt that be something? hahaha pah. yeah. like i could go 40-ish days without writing something the least bit angry-sounding.
maybe i will.
anyway...i'll stop with the pre-bloggageness now! lol
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So, I was looking around at random stuff as usual and came across this. I'm glad I'm not the only one that has thought like this woman...maybe my actions [[or lack there of]] aren't quite to her extent...but they're not far from it. And, I totally understand her reasoning...but I do have some expceptions. *cough
You should read this though...interesting...and you probably won't agree...but whatev. Let me know what you think:
http://www.dailynebraskan.com/opinion/trueblood_first_kiss_worth_waiting_for_perfect_person-1.1483060
TRUEBLOOD: First kiss worth waiting for perfect person
Bethany Trueblood
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Published: Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Updated: Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I’ll be the first to admit it: I’m 20 years old, and I still possess virgin lips.
This shocked one of my friends, who then asked why I have never been kissed.
I explained that the opportunity has never presented itself. I told him that I’m not one to randomly “hook-up” with anyone, nor have I been in a dating relationship. It was my dateless life that shocked him even more.
The lack of kisses and dates, I told him, goes hand-in-hand with my perpetual search to find the “right one,” so he who could be smooched has to first pass that test.
As I observe the number of physically intimate lives around me, I begin to wonder why I care so much about saving my untouched lips for “the one,” especially when it seems unlikely that a guy is saving his lips for me.
A quote by Drew Barrymore’s character Josie Geller in “Never Been Kissed,” one of my favorite movies, helps depict my reasoning:
“The right guy, he’s out there. I’m just not gonna go kiss a whole bunch of losers to get to him.”
It’s not kissing guys that Josie is concerned with; it’s kissing the right guy that she cares about.
Something I’ve been thinking about lately is what is meant by a kiss. Why do we choose to pucker up or not? I thought it would be interesting to get some input on the matter, so I conducted a couple surveys: one for people who have been kissed and one for those who have not. About 70 people took the first survey and 14 the latter. Across the board, many seem to associate kissing with romantic feelings and displaying affection for someone. Aside from that, though, the meaning of a kiss varies from person to person.
According to some of the responses, a kiss can be a greeting among friends, a tender farewell, or a way of “sealing a moment” in one’s memory. To others it could be the result of a mutually exclusive attraction between two people, an emotional union or a sign of devotion. A kiss might also be a romantic gesture meant to progress a relationship beyond friendship. In addition to these things, a number of people say kissing is simply fun.
For those experienced in lip-locking, the number of one’s past kissing partners generally exceeded more than five people, and the need to be in a relationship to exchange kisses was only somewhat important. Many of these people started kissing in their early teen years and say that they do not have any regrets about their first kiss; some, however, do wish that their first kiss was with their current dating partner. For those who have never been kissed, being in a relationship first is very important. Also, the strong consensus for the few who have never kissed is that a kiss should only be shared between two people who are in a committed relationship with one another.
I can strongly identify with the latter group of people and their thoughts about kissing. A kiss is something very intimate and special that should not be given lightly. I would concur that a kiss is an expression of one’s complete devotion and love for another person: something to be exchanged when two people know that they are truly in love.
Every guy I meet could potentially be my husband, but if he’s not mine, then he’s going to be somebody else’s. I want to be extra careful about who I share my affections with out of respect for the guy and for his future wife; I want my future husband to do the same for me. I don’t like the thought of my spouse-to-be exchanging saliva with other girls; when I kiss him someday, I want to know that I’m kissing him only, and not lips that may have traces of others’ DNA on them.
Although kissing may be a lot of fun, I wonder, what’s the point in kissing someone if you’re not in a committed relationship? It might be good “practice,” but I would rather enjoy the awkwardness of a first kiss with the man I want to be with for the rest of my life than become a pro at kissing guys who will one day belong to other women. I am okay with waiting to kiss a guy until I know that he is “the right one;” as Josie puts it, “the only person that you’re supposed to kiss for the rest of your life.”
As my survey results show, a kiss is what a person makes it out to be. It’s completely up to you to decide how and with whom you choose to display your affection. As for my “virgin lips,” they are going to keep waiting, no matter how long that might be.
Bethany Trueblood is a sophomore news editorial major. Reach her at bethanytrueblood@dailynebraskan.com.
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bahahahahaha
so this guy was one of the many responses to her article...it made me crack up hardcore...even if he was kind of a jerk to her...its still funny:
JUSTIN Wed Feb 18 2009 16:00
Look, I know it isn’t cool for a 21 year old guy like me to admit it, but I am proud of my status: I am a senior in college, and I’m still a hand virgin.
New friends are often surprised when they find out about this aspect of my life. They badger me about my life, and my goals, and what led to this point, as if it was just that easy. I tell them the same thing every time: it isn’t that I’m opposed to holding hands. It is just that the right girl has never entered my life. I’m just not the type of guy to go around clasping palms all willy-nilly, nor have I ever been in a tactile relationship.
The lack of finger-snuggling, you see, is part of my long-term goal to find The One. I long ago decided that I had to be sure that I wasn’t giving up my hand to just anyone. I never actually got around to determining criteria on who is The One but I’m working on the assumption here that angels with trumpets will give me the heads up when she wanders by.
I’m been pondering lately what exactly what it means to hold someone’s hand. Is it nature or nurture? Is it a result of what is in our society or what is in our genes? Or perhaps what is in our jeans? I decided to take a couple of surveys. Of the 50 people I surveyed, 37 of them had held hands before, while 13 had not.
According to some of the responses, hand-holding can be a greeting among friends, a tender farewell, or a way of “sealing a deal” that doesn’t involve paperwork. To others it could be the result of a mutually exclusive attraction between two people, an emotional union or a sign of devotion. Holding hands might also be a romantic gesture meant to progress a relationship beyond friendship. In addition to these things, a number of people say hand-holding is simply fun.
For those experienced in palm-grasping, the number of one’s past hand partners generally exceeded more than five people, and the need to be in a relationship to grab fingers was only somewhat important. Many of these people started holding in their early teen years and say that they do not have any regrets about their first hand; some, however, do wish that their first hand had been their current dating partner’s. For those who have never been held a hand, being in a relationship first is very important. Also, the strong consensus for the few who have never held a hand is that a holding should only be shared between two people who are in a committed relationship with one another.
I can strongly identify with the latter group of people and their thoughts about hand-holding. A hand is something very intimate and special that should not be touched lightly. I would concur that a grasp is an expression of one’s complete devotion and love for another person: something to be exchanged when two people know that they are truly in love.
Every girl I meet could potentially be my wife, but if she’s not mine, then she’s going to be somebody else’s. I want to be extra careful about whom I share my affections with out of respect for the girl and for her future husband; I want my future wife to do the same for me. I don’t like the thought of my spouse-to-be exchanging palm sweat with other guys; when I clutch her hand tight someday, I want to know that I’m touching her only, and not hands that may have traces of others’ DNA on them.
Although holding hands may be a lot of fun, I wonder, what’s the point in holding someone’s hand if you’re not in a committed relationship? It might be good “practice,” but I would rather enjoy the awkwardness of a first hand-hold with the woman I want to be with for the rest of my life than become a pro at holding the hands of girls who will one day belong to other men. I am okay with waiting to hold a girl’s hand until I know that she is “the right one;” as H. Jackson Brown, Jr. puts it, “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.”
As my survey results show, a hand is what a person makes it out to be. It’s completely up to you to decide how and with whom you choose to display your affection. As for my “virgin hands,” they are going to keep waiting, no matter how long that might be.
fifteenth [[ I Want To Be The Spark That Lights You Up]]
Okay, so for the blogspot purposes, this isn't a typical kind of post. yeah, it's a survey of sorts, something that should be left strictly on myspace, but this one had some funny things that were obviously interesting enough to post on my myspace blog at one point in time, and i can't leave it out of this "new" blog. this one kind of reminded me of the "p.s. i love you" posting...all about the signs and everything happens for a reason stuff. well, in this case, everything just fit the sitch a tad too well in most of this. so, here goes:
-amused-
So my taste in music...is well, very old...if you go by what's on my itunes, apparently. lol but this was hilariously and awkwardly dead on quite a bit. weird. but, if you would like to help me add to my itunes, by all means, please do so. song suggestions? cds i can borrow to put on my comp? please do help. lol anyway...this is kind of funny--you should try it :)
RULES: copy and paste this into a note . . .
1. Open your digital music library (iTunes or otherwise)
2. Put it on shuffle
3. Press play
4. For every scene below, type the song that's playing
5. When you go to a new scene, press the next button
6. DON'T LIE and try to pretend you're cool. Like real life, take what the spin gives you.
7. Tag your friends (including the tagger).
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Opening Credits: 1, 2 Step by Ciara [[umm…okay]]
Waking Up: Rumor Has It by Clay Walker [[bahahaha this sounds like a funny dream…which makes sense in this case I suppose]]
Getting ready: I Want It That Way by the Backstreet Boys [[this probably would be something running through my mind as I’m getting ready. lol. And probably because of that funny dream that I mentioned above :/ ]]
Monday at work: It’s A Great Day To Be Alive by Travis Tritt [[I’m always in a good mood when I work @ NSS on Mondays! Being there makes for a great day, especially when you have cute parents call and ask umm…interesting…questions and that makes for the start –usually—of a pretty good week!]]
Falling In Love: Tonight I Wanna Cry by Keith Urban [[damn. That’s kinda sad. And sadly, I’m laughing. BC with my dating-luck, well, it seems to be pretty spot on]]
Fight Song: Bubbly by Colbie Caillat [[uhh…no idea]]
Breaking Up: To Me You’re Everything by 98* [[hah]]
One Night Stand: Angel by Sarah McLachlan [[oh my gosh. that’s funny]]
Life's Trials: No Such Thing by John Mayer [[after a convo I had today, just the title of this song, for this “scene,” made me laugh.]]
Mental Breakdown: Your Everything by Keith Urban [[what this song talks about would (((stress that word and add lots of sarcasm))) cause me a mental breakdown. Lol]]
Driving: Tell Me Baby by the Red Hot Chili Peppers [[yeah. . . ?]]
Flashback: Larger Than Life by the Backstreet Boys [[hmm..]]
Wedding: Take The Key by All Saints [[ ;) I’ve had this CD since like elementary school and heard this song for the first time while doing this…the lyrics def. sounded like something totally me. Hah. Random.]]
Final Battle: One More Day by Diamond Rio [[whoa]]
Funeral Song: Save Tonight by Eagle-Eye Cherry [[interesting]]
-amused-
So my taste in music...is well, very old...if you go by what's on my itunes, apparently. lol but this was hilariously and awkwardly dead on quite a bit. weird. but, if you would like to help me add to my itunes, by all means, please do so. song suggestions? cds i can borrow to put on my comp? please do help. lol anyway...this is kind of funny--you should try it :)
RULES: copy and paste this into a note . . .
1. Open your digital music library (iTunes or otherwise)
2. Put it on shuffle
3. Press play
4. For every scene below, type the song that's playing
5. When you go to a new scene, press the next button
6. DON'T LIE and try to pretend you're cool. Like real life, take what the spin gives you.
7. Tag your friends (including the tagger).
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Opening Credits: 1, 2 Step by Ciara [[umm…okay]]
Waking Up: Rumor Has It by Clay Walker [[bahahaha this sounds like a funny dream…which makes sense in this case I suppose]]
Getting ready: I Want It That Way by the Backstreet Boys [[this probably would be something running through my mind as I’m getting ready. lol. And probably because of that funny dream that I mentioned above :/ ]]
Monday at work: It’s A Great Day To Be Alive by Travis Tritt [[I’m always in a good mood when I work @ NSS on Mondays! Being there makes for a great day, especially when you have cute parents call and ask umm…interesting…questions and that makes for the start –usually—of a pretty good week!]]
Falling In Love: Tonight I Wanna Cry by Keith Urban [[damn. That’s kinda sad. And sadly, I’m laughing. BC with my dating-luck, well, it seems to be pretty spot on]]
Fight Song: Bubbly by Colbie Caillat [[uhh…no idea]]
Breaking Up: To Me You’re Everything by 98* [[hah]]
One Night Stand: Angel by Sarah McLachlan [[oh my gosh. that’s funny]]
Life's Trials: No Such Thing by John Mayer [[after a convo I had today, just the title of this song, for this “scene,” made me laugh.]]
Mental Breakdown: Your Everything by Keith Urban [[what this song talks about would (((stress that word and add lots of sarcasm))) cause me a mental breakdown. Lol]]
Driving: Tell Me Baby by the Red Hot Chili Peppers [[yeah. . . ?]]
Flashback: Larger Than Life by the Backstreet Boys [[hmm..]]
Wedding: Take The Key by All Saints [[ ;) I’ve had this CD since like elementary school and heard this song for the first time while doing this…the lyrics def. sounded like something totally me. Hah. Random.]]
Final Battle: One More Day by Diamond Rio [[whoa]]
Funeral Song: Save Tonight by Eagle-Eye Cherry [[interesting]]
fourteenth [[And you can tell me that you’re sorry, But I don’t believe you..♥TS]]
[[in response to a message that I recently received]]
First off, I wouldn't have responded in any other case...but you need to get your facts straight BEFORE you start accusing people of doing things.
As much as I wanted to figure out who your girlfriends were so that I could show them that one blog [[the one in response to your message the last time]], I never sent anything. I was really tempted to, trust me, but I wasn't going to be "that girl," "that person." I don't know what you were told, but I never sent anything...I don't even know who these girls were/are. So, unless I have some kind of telepathic skills, it wasn't me. Karma's a bitch. And, I guess it came back to bite you in the butt, and it sure does suck, huh? You have some things to figure out...and I suggest you get down to getting the right information.
And, I haven't written anything "bashing" you in quite a while. I never use names, I'm not that mean...well, yet. So, if you would like to assume that anytime/every time I say something that's "bashing" anyone, that that anyone is you, then by all means, think whatever you'd like. If you assume it's you who I'm talking about, then I guess that's just guilt, but whatever. Have you ever even considered that maybe I'm talking about other people...not you? Oh, but wait, it's always about you, I forgot. Sorry. You knew from the very beginning that that's what I do, I write. And, if you don't like it, then don't read it. I purposely don't use names. Nobody knows whom I'm talking about for sure, unless they ask, or in your case, I guess, assume it's you. You know I post what's on my mind...don't click the button to see what it says then. Same thing I told D...remember? At least I'm not going completely public...yet. It's not like I'm renting a billboard and doing what that one lady did..and I'm not writing songs... It could be worse. My profile is private…so only people that are my "friends" on MySpace can see…not everyone..yet.
You're telling me to get over it? That's kind of funny. Considering it's coming from the one that can't get a grip and tries to keep calling/texting. Honestly, that's what inspired that last bulletin that I posted as a blog. It's frustrating that you can't just get it...which I'm guessing you finally did already...I hope. Like the title...I love it when people piss me off sometimes...or make me angry...or whatever. It inspires some great writing. Sadly.
Like I told someone else not that long ago...yeah, you do get over what happened to an extent, but it never AND will never completely go away. You're always going to be bitter. And that, I am. I have said with every bulletin and whatever when it talks about forgiving, that I hold grudges. And, darn right, I hold grudges...but only for certain things, and I guess this is one of those certain things. But, has it ever crossed your mind that the "cheater" questions and stuff like that could also be talking about other people? Other people that also ruined the possibility of something good for the person they cheated on?
Jerkface is correct, omg! you finally paid attention to something I said. That must be why it's so cold outside. But...that's also a term that I've used in describing certain people in general, too...so once again, every time it's said, it's not necessarily intended for you.
-Your psycho bitch ex-[[that is what you called me...right?]]
P.S. I guess this is yet another blog :)
First off, I wouldn't have responded in any other case...but you need to get your facts straight BEFORE you start accusing people of doing things.
As much as I wanted to figure out who your girlfriends were so that I could show them that one blog [[the one in response to your message the last time]], I never sent anything. I was really tempted to, trust me, but I wasn't going to be "that girl," "that person." I don't know what you were told, but I never sent anything...I don't even know who these girls were/are. So, unless I have some kind of telepathic skills, it wasn't me. Karma's a bitch. And, I guess it came back to bite you in the butt, and it sure does suck, huh? You have some things to figure out...and I suggest you get down to getting the right information.
And, I haven't written anything "bashing" you in quite a while. I never use names, I'm not that mean...well, yet. So, if you would like to assume that anytime/every time I say something that's "bashing" anyone, that that anyone is you, then by all means, think whatever you'd like. If you assume it's you who I'm talking about, then I guess that's just guilt, but whatever. Have you ever even considered that maybe I'm talking about other people...not you? Oh, but wait, it's always about you, I forgot. Sorry. You knew from the very beginning that that's what I do, I write. And, if you don't like it, then don't read it. I purposely don't use names. Nobody knows whom I'm talking about for sure, unless they ask, or in your case, I guess, assume it's you. You know I post what's on my mind...don't click the button to see what it says then. Same thing I told D...remember? At least I'm not going completely public...yet. It's not like I'm renting a billboard and doing what that one lady did..and I'm not writing songs... It could be worse. My profile is private…so only people that are my "friends" on MySpace can see…not everyone..yet.
You're telling me to get over it? That's kind of funny. Considering it's coming from the one that can't get a grip and tries to keep calling/texting. Honestly, that's what inspired that last bulletin that I posted as a blog. It's frustrating that you can't just get it...which I'm guessing you finally did already...I hope. Like the title...I love it when people piss me off sometimes...or make me angry...or whatever. It inspires some great writing. Sadly.
Like I told someone else not that long ago...yeah, you do get over what happened to an extent, but it never AND will never completely go away. You're always going to be bitter. And that, I am. I have said with every bulletin and whatever when it talks about forgiving, that I hold grudges. And, darn right, I hold grudges...but only for certain things, and I guess this is one of those certain things. But, has it ever crossed your mind that the "cheater" questions and stuff like that could also be talking about other people? Other people that also ruined the possibility of something good for the person they cheated on?
Jerkface is correct, omg! you finally paid attention to something I said. That must be why it's so cold outside. But...that's also a term that I've used in describing certain people in general, too...so once again, every time it's said, it's not necessarily intended for you.
-Your psycho bitch ex-[[that is what you called me...right?]]
P.S. I guess this is yet another blog :)
thirteenth [[p.s. i love you.]]
"As with ALL things that are good, beautiful& great, sometimes we just need to let go of our fears."
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wow. so I just watched P.S. I Love You. Love that movie...and hate that movie, ya know? I hadn't planned to watch it tonight, but last night I went to the free Gavin concert on campus and figured I'd get there early because I was more interested to see who was opening for him, really, and just wondered if they were any good. To tell you the truth, I honestly had no idea what the band's name even was 'til I had been sitting there waiting for a while for it to start. It was a great feeling day outside, so I was like, ehhh...I'm already on campus...I'll just wait here 'til it starts and just read my book for a bit. While I'm sitting there though, I kept getting distracted by all the people passing by [and texting Rachel haha] that I really started thinking about things, and what happened the other night...and was still trying to figure things out, and thought to myself:
"ya know...people are always asking for signs, I think I will, too. but wait, what kind of sign could I even get for my situation... I have no idea. I mean, yeah, I wish someone or something would just tell me something about what I should do or think, or just where I stand in that situation in general...but I'm still not even sure like what could help me understand anything, except for one person, but whatever. i mean it's not like i'm saying this out loud, so I'm not actually going to get a sign, but it WOULD be nice, but whatever...anyway...just get this concert started. im freezing."
Well, low and behold this band NEEDTOBREATHE [love their name btw...no spaces] comes on and they sound pretty good or whatever and I'm like all right, this isn't so bad. Well, they finish their song and are like "okay this next one is from a movie, P.S. I Love You." And, well, that just kind of made me laugh, for a reason that only one person would understand, and who it's intended for to understand [well, with the exception of rachel and erica]. I was just like yeah, anyway. Then they started to sing this song and the words were crazy, not like psycho...just like unexpected! I was even just like am I hearing this right? So, yes, me being the nerd that I am --you can go ahead and say it-- I looked them up on the internet on my blackberry :/ haha and yes, i did hear them correctly. The song was "More Time." I mean, c'mon, seriously? I felt like He had given me my answer...or at least an answer for the time being. My sign. Weird how things manage to work, huh? I mean, who knows, if that song is really telling of what will actually happen, but for the time being, I was able to wipe away the tears and finally just take a breath. It was kind of relieving in a sense...not to mention totally unexpected. I know I say [A LOT] that everything happens for a reason. Well, there must have been a reason for me to decide to sit there waiting like two hours, "reading," for this concert to start, for a band that I didn't even know and never even heard of [[[kind of like The Escalators hahaha --sorry Rachel, I just had to throw that in there]]], I mean... me. the person that doesn't like to go anywhere by herself. to go sit, BY MYSELF, in front of the tower..on the main mall...freezing cold. Ya know? Times like these are sometimes some of the best times that could happen...those moments of realization. knowing that there is Someone out there that is listening to you...and that CAN read your mind, so you don't have to ask your questions out loud...He has your answers.
I'll leave you to check out this song on your own, as I have already written quite a bit...but I'll put the link of here to save you some time: http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/psiloveyou/moretime.htm
Phew...well, it definitely felt good to write. I hate writing, but I love it...kind of like that movie...except for not. lol. It mostly just felt good to put that thought out there...but anyway...so I was looking for something from the movie online and came across some good stuff that this blogger-person "nick" has written...I'll put some links here, actually maybe I'll go ahead and just copy and paste, too...but you should check him out, he writes some pretty good things:
http://6doi.net/lifestyle/dont-be-afraid-to-be-in-love.html
"Don't Be Afraid To Be In Love
20
JUL
Posted by nick as Lifestyle Add to del.icio.us
On my recent breakup, being only human, I had moments of saying to myself, "never again". Had I been setting myself up to be afraid to fall in love? I don't think so, but for others, this is a reality. That they cannot fall in love, because they are afraid.
As with all things that are good, beautiful, and great, sometimes we just need to let go of our fears. The gift of love, the gift of being in a relationship with someone you care about, and hopefully someone you fall in love with, is enough for me to hope, and hold on to that hope until that day comes, when I find the right person for me.
Don't be afraid to fall or be in love. Take it from me, after a brief, yet heartbreaking split from my girlfriend, I have come to realize all the good moments, the blessings, the undeniable love that we had for each other. To have had just one day in that kind of relationship, I think, is more than enough to take that risk, and experience this heartache.
Love, be in love, and accept love. This is the inspiration I know that has come from my past relationships. In the end, we have but one life, and if this is all we have, then experience everything, the good, the bad, and the sometimes inspirational and wonderful thing we call LOVE."
AND
what I included in my bulletin, "well deserved,...and well done," a bit ago:
"i have no idea who this lady is, but more power to her...guys, see what happens when you're not faithful? sucks for this steven guy, but i guess that's whatcha get..,
i mean, i thought my blog-writing and question answering were bad, but got the point across...
...taylor swift writes 1 country songs for the whole world to hear...
...i guess everyone out there just has their own way to cope...
...here's this lady, Emily's way:
http://6doi. net/web-finds/dont-cheat. html
notic e to all the guys out there...and ladies that will do this too...and anyone else: being cheated on is not fun...so dont expect the person thats been cheated on to be nice...and not have fun with it, because we definitely WILL make sure you AND everyone else knows what happened."
Yeah, so anyway...I need to be getting to bed soon, so that I can get up and be productive before a long night at work! So, I'll leave you with a quote from Gerard Butler's character, Gerry [the end of his last letter]:
"Don't be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you."
Love that part. And now for something that I wrote someone not too long ago:
"You can't pass up opportunities because you don't know for sure what'll happen…take a chance…life is about risks."
As cliche as that may be...I totally believe it. You can't always know what's going to happen before it does, because then that just ruins the surprises. Maybe I should listen to myself sometimes, and just eat a damn strawberry or drink that blue powerade! :D I mean, I did take a bite of that Chicken Pizziola sub-wich and try that gum [[consider yourself lucky btw, nobody has ever been successful with getting to me try something "new"]] and it wasn't too bad. Haha, but seriously. If you always knew what was going to happen, it wouldn't be any fun getting there and it'd be totally BORING, ya know?
Anyway...so, for real this time, I'm done...for the night. :)
Goodnight!
P.S. lol jk ;)
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wow. so I just watched P.S. I Love You. Love that movie...and hate that movie, ya know? I hadn't planned to watch it tonight, but last night I went to the free Gavin concert on campus and figured I'd get there early because I was more interested to see who was opening for him, really, and just wondered if they were any good. To tell you the truth, I honestly had no idea what the band's name even was 'til I had been sitting there waiting for a while for it to start. It was a great feeling day outside, so I was like, ehhh...I'm already on campus...I'll just wait here 'til it starts and just read my book for a bit. While I'm sitting there though, I kept getting distracted by all the people passing by [and texting Rachel haha] that I really started thinking about things, and what happened the other night...and was still trying to figure things out, and thought to myself:
"ya know...people are always asking for signs, I think I will, too. but wait, what kind of sign could I even get for my situation... I have no idea. I mean, yeah, I wish someone or something would just tell me something about what I should do or think, or just where I stand in that situation in general...but I'm still not even sure like what could help me understand anything, except for one person, but whatever. i mean it's not like i'm saying this out loud, so I'm not actually going to get a sign, but it WOULD be nice, but whatever...anyway...just get this concert started. im freezing."
Well, low and behold this band NEEDTOBREATHE [love their name btw...no spaces] comes on and they sound pretty good or whatever and I'm like all right, this isn't so bad. Well, they finish their song and are like "okay this next one is from a movie, P.S. I Love You." And, well, that just kind of made me laugh, for a reason that only one person would understand, and who it's intended for to understand [well, with the exception of rachel and erica]. I was just like yeah, anyway. Then they started to sing this song and the words were crazy, not like psycho...just like unexpected! I was even just like am I hearing this right? So, yes, me being the nerd that I am --you can go ahead and say it-- I looked them up on the internet on my blackberry :/ haha and yes, i did hear them correctly. The song was "More Time." I mean, c'mon, seriously? I felt like He had given me my answer...or at least an answer for the time being. My sign. Weird how things manage to work, huh? I mean, who knows, if that song is really telling of what will actually happen, but for the time being, I was able to wipe away the tears and finally just take a breath. It was kind of relieving in a sense...not to mention totally unexpected. I know I say [A LOT] that everything happens for a reason. Well, there must have been a reason for me to decide to sit there waiting like two hours, "reading," for this concert to start, for a band that I didn't even know and never even heard of [[[kind of like The Escalators hahaha --sorry Rachel, I just had to throw that in there]]], I mean... me. the person that doesn't like to go anywhere by herself. to go sit, BY MYSELF, in front of the tower..on the main mall...freezing cold. Ya know? Times like these are sometimes some of the best times that could happen...those moments of realization. knowing that there is Someone out there that is listening to you...and that CAN read your mind, so you don't have to ask your questions out loud...He has your answers.
I'll leave you to check out this song on your own, as I have already written quite a bit...but I'll put the link of here to save you some time: http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/psiloveyou/moretime.htm
Phew...well, it definitely felt good to write. I hate writing, but I love it...kind of like that movie...except for not. lol. It mostly just felt good to put that thought out there...but anyway...so I was looking for something from the movie online and came across some good stuff that this blogger-person "nick" has written...I'll put some links here, actually maybe I'll go ahead and just copy and paste, too...but you should check him out, he writes some pretty good things:
http://6doi.net/lifestyle/dont-be-afraid-to-be-in-love.html
"Don't Be Afraid To Be In Love
20
JUL
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On my recent breakup, being only human, I had moments of saying to myself, "never again". Had I been setting myself up to be afraid to fall in love? I don't think so, but for others, this is a reality. That they cannot fall in love, because they are afraid.
As with all things that are good, beautiful, and great, sometimes we just need to let go of our fears. The gift of love, the gift of being in a relationship with someone you care about, and hopefully someone you fall in love with, is enough for me to hope, and hold on to that hope until that day comes, when I find the right person for me.
Don't be afraid to fall or be in love. Take it from me, after a brief, yet heartbreaking split from my girlfriend, I have come to realize all the good moments, the blessings, the undeniable love that we had for each other. To have had just one day in that kind of relationship, I think, is more than enough to take that risk, and experience this heartache.
Love, be in love, and accept love. This is the inspiration I know that has come from my past relationships. In the end, we have but one life, and if this is all we have, then experience everything, the good, the bad, and the sometimes inspirational and wonderful thing we call LOVE."
AND
what I included in my bulletin, "well deserved,...and well done," a bit ago:
"i have no idea who this lady is, but more power to her...guys, see what happens when you're not faithful? sucks for this steven guy, but i guess that's whatcha get..,
i mean, i thought my blog-writing and question answering were bad, but got the point across...
...taylor swift writes 1 country songs for the whole world to hear...
...i guess everyone out there just has their own way to cope...
...here's this lady, Emily's way:
http://6doi. net/web-finds/dont-cheat. html
notic e to all the guys out there...and ladies that will do this too...and anyone else: being cheated on is not fun...so dont expect the person thats been cheated on to be nice...and not have fun with it, because we definitely WILL make sure you AND everyone else knows what happened."
Yeah, so anyway...I need to be getting to bed soon, so that I can get up and be productive before a long night at work! So, I'll leave you with a quote from Gerard Butler's character, Gerry [the end of his last letter]:
"Don't be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you."
Love that part. And now for something that I wrote someone not too long ago:
"You can't pass up opportunities because you don't know for sure what'll happen…take a chance…life is about risks."
As cliche as that may be...I totally believe it. You can't always know what's going to happen before it does, because then that just ruins the surprises. Maybe I should listen to myself sometimes, and just eat a damn strawberry or drink that blue powerade! :D I mean, I did take a bite of that Chicken Pizziola sub-wich and try that gum [[consider yourself lucky btw, nobody has ever been successful with getting to me try something "new"]] and it wasn't too bad. Haha, but seriously. If you always knew what was going to happen, it wouldn't be any fun getting there and it'd be totally BORING, ya know?
Anyway...so, for real this time, I'm done...for the night. :)
Goodnight!
P.S. lol jk ;)
i do own more than 13 pairs of shoes.
wow. it's been a while. i've been without internet, finally got it, then i got uber busy. but the posts will be starting up again!! woot!! i have to catch up to really have "a thought for every pair of shoes i own."
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
twelfth [[cheater,cheater]]
joey&rory...funny stuff :D
once again with the hilariously awesome oh so perfect songs...
[[this goes out to all the boys that have cheated with a ...well, i'll let you figure that out when you listen to the song. but anyway, any guy that has cheated period.
joy of my life!
Joey+Rory's: Cheater, Cheater
they're quite funny, if i may say so myself!
once again with the hilariously awesome oh so perfect songs...
[[this goes out to all the boys that have cheated with a ...well, i'll let you figure that out when you listen to the song. but anyway, any guy that has cheated period.
joy of my life!
Joey+Rory's: Cheater, Cheater
they're quite funny, if i may say so myself!
eleventh [[No one falls out of LOVE by CHANCE, it is by CHOICE.]]
No one falls out of LOVE by CHANCE, it is by CHOICE.
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PERSON THIS IS INTENDED FOR…YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE:
I received this message [btwn the two dotted lines],…
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"I was emptying my inbox..n i came upon some stuff u wrote me..so here it is..n i thought we were "okay" last time we spoke? guess not..plz respond thow..i did send u a friend request..oh by the way my mom asked about u the other day, after all this time my fam still asks..
you've prolly read this 50 million times...but heres my version of it to you!:
Just some reasons why I fell in love with ______ ___...[[with inserts-in double brackets-that completely negate these reasons…or just because I felt the need for a bit of commentary]]
You waited for me when you found out I had a bf and weren't quick to push things [[yet, you couldn't seem to remember that I had a boyfriend…I had to tell you more than once…because you wanted me to answer that damn question—that was not in fact a yes or no questions at the time—you weren't quick to push things in the long run, like letting enough time pass before we actually started dating…but that week at camp with the question-asking, I finally answered with an explanation…]] ♥ You're always really sweet to me and never say mean things even if i do get frustrated with you at times [[oh wait, then you called me a bitch and also sent me: "I hope you know I'm the closest to perfect any guy will ever be. You can't do better than me. Good luck finding your perfect guy. I know you won't find him"]] ♥ You told me you loved me (and wrote me something really sweet for the first time) and didn't get mad when I didn't say it back at first [[and wanted to break up like two months later—bc you just couldn't take the distance anymore…but when the truth finally came out like a year later {when it finally ended} it was because there was someone else]] ♥ And...when I finally did, you said it back! ♥ This is really random, but you were willing to drive back to your house when you realized you'd forgotten my corsage for Homecoming ♥ You waited for me to get to Nac for your prom because I had a bowling tournament, and were late to your prom because of me...and almost missed the slideshow [[surprisingly enough you did this—but do you remember trying to talk me out of going?...i do. I'm not sure I even want to know the reason behind that one—I'm sure we can all figure it out.]] ♥ You've tried to stop cussing in front of me because you know I don't like it...even if every now and then you do slip...you usually manage to catch yourself [[you started "slipping up" more and more…and using other words that were just so freaking disgusting—"dick"? I mean seriously, c'mon.]] ♥ When I went to your Homecoming game all of your friends already knew who I was...not to mention your teachers, too [[this doesn't necessarily negate this one—but it has to do with that night. But, you tried to kiss me…we weren't official yet. I think I've learned my lesson with that one.]]♥ You also wanted to make sure that I wasn't freezing and that I was warm, so you kept offering to get your hoodie, or MORE hot chocolate (that was so freakin good btw) ♥ You tell me you love me even if I'm mad or upset with you for something, I love you, too! ♥ You're like the only guy that I can talk about "my wedding" to or anything about my future for that matter...and we can talk about our "love theories," too [[yet you had it in you to still suggest getting married in Vegas or at a courthouse! I'll leave it at that. You'll hear more about this further down.]] ♥ AND even if sometimes I think you weren't listening to me because I have to constantly repeat myself or answer the same question countless times, you can tell me things that I've said, and then with that, I know you must've been you do remember stuff that I remember only mentioning once, maybe twice [[see above. Wait, maybe it's because I did mention it more than once or twice]]♥ You randomly text me during the day if we haven't talked for a while, just to tell me you love me [[but when you wouldn't text or call it wouldn't just be for a day, it'd be for days sometimes weeks…honestly, I don't know how I let it last so long.]]♥ No matter how much I mess with you about your accent, you don't get mad...you just get back at me when I say something very country-esque... what can I say?, I guess you've rubbed off on me--but your accent is what makes you ______ ___ and only makes me love you even more... even if you do say books, boots, and Nac like a true East Texan [[and the "Mo"/"Marisela" thing…it's fine that you called me Mo, but when you are sitting here trying to get me back or have serious conversation, and you call me Mo instead of taking the time to write my name out…that makes me think you don't care. Like you don't have the time to type 6 more letters…what's suppose to make me think you'll actually have time for me/ to make things right.]] ♥
..yeah...the other day when I read you that one thing I wrote, I had this, too, but I decided to let you read it yourself instead...hope you liked it! i love you!
"Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile." [[you always try to throw these quotes back at me—yet they don't help you prove anything. With this one…the person has to make "your heart smile" all the time, or most of the time at least…but when that person makes it sad/angry and that reason (like when someone cheats) outdoes everything else…NEWSFLASH: that heart ain't smilin' no more! –now you can make the rest of the connection.]]"
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…and here's my response…:
[[I know how much you like to throw this quote back at me—though I still don't know why…but here goes…]]
"No one falls in LOVE by CHOICE, it is by CHANCE. No one stays in LOVE by CHANCE, it is by WORK. And no one falls out of LOVE by CHANCE, it is by CHOICE."
And the reasons I chose to fall out of love with ______ ___…:
- You cheated on me not once, not twice, but "not a lot" of times.
- You called me a bitch. Oh yeah, AND your logic makes no sense.
[Exhibit A: playboi_0675681 2:37 AM people have cheated when they loved sum1
eenymeenyminymo8
eenymeenyminymo8 2:38 AM that means they dont really love the person...if you really love someone you dont need someone else...not even in your weakest moments
playboi_0675681
playboi_0675681 2:39 AM well
playboi_0675681 2:39 AM idk what to say
playboi_0675681 2:39 AM guess it really is over then
eenymeenyminymo8
eenymeenyminymo8 2:40 AM you finally came to that realization?
playboi_0675681
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM oik
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM u dont have to be such a bitch
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM im sitting here pouring out my heart to u
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM and ur stompin on it
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM thanks
playboi_0675681 2:41 AM alot
eenymeenyminymo8
eenymeenyminymo8 2:43 AM think of everything you just said the next time you cheat on someone.]
- Everytime you've called and try to apologize/make amends/get back together…not only have you tried to guilt-trip me every single time or called me at like 4 o'clock in the morning—when I have to be up at like 6 or 7 that same morning….BUT you've also had a girlfriend EVERY SINGLE TIME!
- On the phone that one day:
o "I was young [first of all, young my butt…it was a freakin' year ago]…I wasn't ready for commitment, but I am now."
- Ready for commitment, seriously?!? How the hell are you ready for committment when you're calling me and trying to get back together ..while you have a girlfriend...???!! You're still cheating…that doesn't show that you've changed. You're still the same guy that can't manage to hold onto anything good that comes your way.
- Was/is it really that hard to just keep it in your pants for once?! Whether literal or not.. It's called temptation, say no!
- I know how much you love my "angry" songs—so here's one more…somehow I manage to find songs that are just oh so perfect—especially for what you did [[for this one, thanks Rihanna]]:
[Intro]
Ohh, how about a round of applause,
Yeah, standin' ovation,
Ooh ohh yeah, yeah yeah yeah yeah.
[Verse 1]
You look so dumb right now,
Standin' outside my house,
Tryin' to apologize,
You're so ugly when you cry,
Please, just cut it out.
[Chorus]
Don't tell me you're sorry 'cause you're not,
Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught,
But you put on quite a show (oh),
You really had me goin',
But now it's time to go (oh),
Curtain's finally closin',
That was quite a show (oh),
Very entertainin',
But it's over now (but it's over now),
Go on and take a bow, ohh ohh.
[Verse 2]
Grab your clothes and get gone (get gone),
You better hurry up before the sprinklers come on (come on),
Talkin' 'bout girl, I love you, you're the one,
This just looks like the re-run,
Please, what else is on.
[Chorus]
And don't tell me you're sorry 'cause you're not (mmm),
Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught (mmm),
But you put on quite a show (oh),
You really had me goin',
But now it's time to go (oh),
Curtain's finally closin',
That was quite a show (oh),
Very entertainin',
But it's over now (but it's over now),
Go on and take a bow, ohh.
[Bridge]
And the award for the best liar goes to you (goes to you),
For makin' me believe that you could be faithful to me,
Let's hear your speech out,
How about a round of applause,
A standin' ovation.
[Chorus]
But you put on quite a show (oh),
You really had me goin',
But now it's time to go (oh),
Curtain's finally closin',
That was quite a show (oh),
Very entertainin',
But it's over now (but it's over now),
Go on and take a bow.
But it's over now.
- Apparently I wasn't what you were looking for anyway, so much for you trying to make things better:
[Exhibit B: playboi_0675681 2:43 AM bye
playboi_0675681 2:43 AM and by the way atleat i still have sumones heart from garland
eenymeenyminymo8
eenymeenyminymo8 2:43 AM is it actually bye this time?
playboi_0675681
playboi_0675681 2:43 AM someone in garland still cares about me
playboi_0675681 2:43 AM yeah
playboi_0675681 2:43 AM this is goodbye
playboi_0675681 2:44 AM and i think u know who im talkin about
playboi_0675681 2:44 AM someone whos been waitin for me for 2 years
playboi_0675681
2:45 AM
got nothing to say now huh?
playboi_0675681 2:46 AM huh
playboi_0675681 2:48 AM Is that okay w/ u]
- You tried to get on me about my "YES" card that I gave to you when we first got together and other little random stuff I did for you …but you sure did like all those things when you got them, huh? How else do you explain that you just so happen to come across this stuff in the trunk of your car, like you've never opened it in a year!...or in your inbox or whatever. Maybe you should've taken some notes/come up with or use some of those ideas yourself. But no, no, ______ ___ couldn't do that. He was a romantic who always had ideas up his sleeve [as I remember from our first conversations at camp]. Hah. What a joke! It was a bunch of talk. All talk…and nothing to back it up with…When did you ever actually follow through?! –Except for the very first thing [Homecoming] – you never did. Every time we'd make plans or try to for holidays or weekends or whatever, I'd follow through on my end…convince my parents if it was necessary…but what did you ever do?!
- BUT one of the BIG deal breakers, aside from you not being able to keep it in your pants quite a few times…was when you had the nerve to say lets get married…lets go to Vegas and get married…and then when I laughed you said, okay, okay, we can go to a courthouse. Seriously…??! WTF? Did you really say that?! We dated for 2 years and you found it okay to say that? Did you ever listen to anything I said…like at all? One of the ♥ bullets in that message said you were like the only guy I could talk to about "weddings"…well guess what—I guess that was just a high school thing, because I college, I'm sure if you came across any of my guy friends, they could tell you that I sure as hell am not getting married in Vegas or a damn courthouse!! I'm not saying that I'm definitely going to have a wedding 100% according to my "planned out" one, but it's definitely going to take more thought than driving to a f^<%!* courthouse or resorting to the Britney Spears method that lasted all of 55 hours!
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I hope this said something to you. Maybe showed you my logic—the kind that actually makes a bit of sense. I didn't want to have to get this direct, but you felt that you could before, so I finally decided to go there. I was being nice at first, not getting anywhere near insulting…I decided I wouldn't be so mean and just say you screwed up. But you had to tell me I would never find anyone, and I held in what I really wanted to say to you for like a year because I didn't find it completely necessary to say—it's not like it'd change what you did, but… You know what happens when I hold things in. Eventually I'll just let it all out. Ew, that sounds kind of gross. But you know what I mean…and you know who I'm talking about. I don't understand how you just can't see that I'm telling you you messed up. Royally screwed up. It's too late. You can't fix it. And, like I've told you before:
[eenymeenyminymo8 2:28 AM move on. go to your dads or something. [which you did end up doing…so you can forget that part this time] start over. you know what youve done wrong, now dont do those same things again. rethink some stuff. Goodnight]
-MARISELA-
P.S. There are more bullets that I could add, but they were all included in the conversation that one day, so I didn't figure I needed to include them. But, if I realized I left anything out that was neither in the convo or this, it'll get added. I figured the convo that one day finally said something to you…but I guess not. Now what was so important that you needed to talk about?
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
tenth [[oooh weee ooooh killer tofu..]]
"______ ________ ____. Since the Orientation Interview day (he was our group's leader) when we started talking about Ryan Cabrera… I don't even remember what brought it up, but that definitely gave him some points because it's rare to find a guy that likes his music…and will admit to it. Haha. I'm not sure if he was being totally serious, but he got the points nonetheless. Speaking of music, his idea for the OAs to go to the John Mayer concert caught my attention as well. John Mayer, another singer I like. Points. Then I had to kill him in assassins. Aww. I felt so bad because he didn't believe me at first, but he was such a good sport about it, and I have yet to let him down by being assassinated. At least he was just blown a kiss and not like poked or anything. Lol. And, I don't really know why, but for some reason when he talks to me…(although it's like two words and usually is "So I heard you killed so and so") I get like this weird feeling, kind of like butterflies in my stomach. For some odd reason he makes me nervous, and I'm not really sure why. :/ All I have to say is that he's an awesome OA and a great guy to look up to. Very role-model-esque and like pretty much the perfect guy. Any girl would be lucky to have him. The End. :)"
i could go on...well on my way to keeping up with my goal...one a day keeps the umm...other boys away?? hahaha...
last night...totally not even in his direction, it was nice though:) and random...but totally cute!
man, im getting the chills just typing/thinking about it.
:)
ninth [[why]]
So I came across this quote, and I think it describes my love life oh so very well...think back to a couple of blogs ago, I believe, and you may see why...but then again explanation could be required...I think the quote speaks pretty much for itself though:
"So there's this boy I know,
He's kinda like a star
I know that reaching for him is impossible
But I always keep trying
Just hoping that just somehow
He'll fall for me"
Why? How do I somehow manage to find the perfect things like these [[the dead-on quotes..well, even in this sense, the perfect guy]]? Why can't I get him out of my head? Why can't I just be done with it? Why am I thinking that? Why does he always seem to find a way to pop back in? Why does he manage to say the sweetest things? Why can't he see how hard/far he's made me fall? Why can he not see that the more he tries to be nice about everything, the more it unintentionally hurts in the end? Why can't he just say what he's thinking? Why does it have to be this way? Why can't I just finally have some answers? Why must things have to be so complicated? Why is he so nice and oh so perfect? Why can't more guys be like this? Why can't he just be a jerk, so I can be done with it? Why can't I find a REAL flaw in him? Why is his only flaw not even a negative one? WHY?
...I would tell you everything about him, but then I'm afraid you'd fall in love with him too..
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